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Ofer Inbar (cos@elbereth.leftbank.com) wrote:
: bogbody@aol.com (Bogbody) writes:
: >I never said that I don't take other things into account - in fact, I even
: >said that I could easily find a man with roommates attractive. That's not
: >neccesarily a turn-off. I simply said that I DO find it attractive when a
: >man owns a nice car and his own home. Of course I don't expect a man to go
: >into debt to obtain these things. Here in SF, renting is the norm and I
: >wouldn't think there was anything wrong with that. I am a little less
: >enthused about roommates (mostly because of privacy :-)) but I understand
: >that if a guy has just moved or taken up a new career, that may be his
: >only option.
: 
: You're still operating from faulty assumptions.  Fortunately for you,
: you're smart enough to perhaps realize that possibility, and not make
: snap decisions or rule out people categorically.  However, this is the
: second post I've seen from you which implies that you believe that
: living on your own is somehow a "step up" from living with housemates.
: 
: I realize that there's a cultural norm in this country that you live
: with housemates at first, to save money, and then once you can afford
: it you move out and live on your own, then eventually form a couple,
: have a monogamous relationship and move in with your love, get married
: and settle down, and so on.  You're viewing people through this set of
: assumptions, and you should realize that there are a lot of people who
: do not buy into them.

However people who don't can feel quite isolated...

Like living in a quite alien culture.