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> : Bogbody <bogbody@aol.com> wrote:
> : >I, too, am impressed when I hear that a man has a nice car or owns his own
> : >house. I am not overly impressed when I hear that a man lives with five
> : >roommates in a run-down flat and rides a second-hand scooter. As several
> : >women have pointed out, however, it is not the WEALTH that is impressive,
> : >it is the indication that the man is a responsible, stable adult. If
> : >wealth were the issue, then I would be impressed by men who drive Ferari's
> : >(spelling, sorry) - as it is, I wouldn't be interested in a man who drove
> : >such a vulgar, flashy thing. If a man is too wealthy, I might become
> : >uneasy. (I'm not sure why.) However, if a man has a NICE car and a DECENT
> : >place to live, then my weird female instincts say "Ah! Now, he might just
> : >turn out to be a wonderful father for my children." At the very least,
> : >even if I'm not looking to have babies, I still feel re-assured that this
> : >guy might not be the type to borrow money and be flighty.
> : 

Hey, I resemble that remark! I live in a *nice* group house and I
drive a '65 Ford Falcon by CHOICE! See, I _enjoy_ messing with that
car on occasion, driving down the highway with my arm on the window,
wind in my hair, playing kooky music on it's 8-track player. I wear
thrift shop clothes on occasion, jeans & t-shirts, and Converse All-
Stars, but I also look damn fine in a suit. 

Oh, but this all demonstrates my lack of responsibility!?! Never mind
that I'm saving to start a business, saving for my retirement NOW,
saving for my future family if I have one, saving for my real passions
like travelling and music. It's the 'look' that matters!

I have a good job with good pay that've I've been working for 5 years.
Everyone I know with children tells me I'm great with kids. I cook I
clean I sew. I can cut a rug, understand opera, speak furrin' languages,
mix a mean martini and play Devil's Advocate with the best of 'em. But
the fact that I paid $400 for my car, fixed it up, have driven it
EVERY DAY for almost 3 years and sock away the $200/month I COULD
be spending on a generic rice rocket "proves" I'm unstable? Boo hoo,
I thought it proved I had my priorities straight. 

I and many young men like me are in a state of flux. I want to find
the right person and settle down, but I don't know where I want that
to be yet. So why buy a house? If I save money now on cars and clothes
and mortgages I'll have that much more to start a family off right. If
I found Ms Right in a far off city, I could pack up my stuff in a 
small van and bring my friggin' Bank Account with me! So don't judge
a book by it's cover!

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cheers,

Brendan Perry