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:Katy says that she is impressed when a man has a nice car or owns his
:own
:house.
:She seems less interested in men who make other life choices.

I never said that I don't take other things into account - in fact, I even
said that I could easily find a man with roommates attractive. That's not
neccesarily a turn-off. I simply said that I DO find it attractive when a
man owns a nice car and his own home. Of course I don't expect a man to go
into debt to obtain these things. Here in SF, renting is the norm and I
wouldn't think there was anything wrong with that. I am a little less
enthused about roommates (mostly because of privacy :-)) but I understand
that if a guy has just moved or taken up a new career, that may be his
only option.
If I had said "It's a turn-on when a guy has dark hair and blue eyes" that
wouldn't have meant that I don't also find brown-eyed blondes attractive.
It would only mean that I dig dark hair and blue eyes.
At my age (26) a lot of men are at a point where they're either becoming
adults, or they're stuck in adolescence. I find that I have little
patience for men who aren't mature, so I am impressed when I meet a man
who obviously has some superficial signs of maturity and responsibility.
However, as I said at least twice before, if I meet an interesting man who
has a lot going for him, I'm not going to say "Oh, you ride the bus?
Forget it!"
I know that there are women who think a man is only worthwhile if he has a
BMW or a certain income. I think those women are crazy and I'm not one of
them. In fact, I'm likely to regard a man with a BMW as being potentially
a jerk (no good reason for this, but I do.)
When I said that I don't approve of men borrowing money, I wasn't talking
about bank loans, I meant borrowing money from ME - which is an absolute
no-no. Maybe I was associating with the wrong people, but that has
happened to me. It gets ugly.
So, don't get in such a snit - I wasn't talking about you.
-katy