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Jennifer R Lind  <betzl@ix.netcom.com> wrote:
>When your overwieght I don't think dating services are the way to go. 
>She needs to meet men and let them get to know her.  These men aren't
>getting a chance to see her personality.  It's like going on a blind
>date.  The only way any of us will do it, is if the person is
>attractive.  When you meet someone for the first time and your even a
>little disappointed that sets the stage for the rest of the date.  You
>don't allow yourself to relax and get to know the person from the
>inside out.  I'm not saying this is right or wrong, just how it is in
>most cases.

Jen, what I was trying tp point out is that in our youth-oriented culture
overweight women are treated very differently compared to slim women.
I think it more than just the dating scene; I'm talking in all sorts of
situations.  (This reminds me of when I was in college of how I went
to visit a female friend I had known from high school at her all girls
Catholic college.  We were friends, not romantic.  After noting how
well dressed and well groomed all the girls were all the time (even
when they were "bumming" around) I asked my friend Michelle what was
up.  (This was after one girl had refused to go to Sunday morning
breakfast because she didn't want to take all the time to "make herself
up" even though there were only other women around at this cafeteria
on a Sunday morning.)  She said: "We don't dress up and put on all
the make-up for guys -- it's mostly for the other women!  It's
how we judge each other.")

  - John

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