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< None of this means that what you find right for you is wrong, nor that
what I find right for me is wrong. However, you are selecting history to
justify your desires. >

Not yet... it was the other poster.
It would be rather difficult to use historical examples when all written material remains from ... who?... 
the Church. Of course they adjusted reality a "little" to their liking. Here's an interesting related 
paragraph from the "History of Sex" book, I mentioned before, about King Arthur

"... One of the things which has done much to build up in our minds a false and idealized conception 
of the Middle Ages is the representation of King Arthur and his knights as paragons of chaste and 
gentlemanly behaviour. This has been done primarily by the Christian authorities, who rewrote the old 
British folk tales as as to bring them in line with the approved morality of the Middle Ages, though 
the process was carried further by the romantics of hte eighteenth cewntury and by Victorian 
sentimentalism. The facts arew very different. Gildas, as as Christian historian, is no doubt somewhat 
biased, but he describes the knights as "sanguinary, boastful, murderous, addicted to vice, adulterous 
and enemies of God", adding "Although they keep a large number of wives, they are fornicators and 
adulterers."  The morals of the ladies are no stricter. At King Arthur's court, when a logic mantle is 
produced which can only be worn by a chaste woman, none of the ladies present is able to wear it.
   When we examine these stories in their original form, we begin to see, not immorality as such, but 
a completely different system of sexual morality at odds with the Christian one: a system in which 
women were free to take lovers, both before and after marriage, and in which men were free to 
seduce all women of lower rank, while they might hope to win the favours of women of higher rank if 
they were sufficiently valiant... "

So were are spoon-fed here with this Christian monogamy idol since a good millenia;  it would be 
rather hard to untangle how much of our present monogamy is cultural heritage and how much of it 
is a real natural instinct. (I'd say much less than we'd dare to think.) Especially now that you got 
missionaries even in the wildest jungle bushes of the Third World, teaching the "other cultures" on 
our ways and values.

George