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John Cooley <jcooley@world.std.com> wrote:
> Of course, this completely grates against the let's-spend-months-getting-
> to-know-each-other-before-even-kissing style many women would like to
> follow if they got their druthers in the dating world.
> 
> What results most of the time is something in between these two
> approaches.
> 
>   - John

Katy <bogbody@aol.com> wrote:
>John, I know you said "many" women, not "all" or even "most," but I'm
>going to disagree with you anyway. Women have sex urges. We really do. We
>want to get laid. We want to have hot, nasty sex. We just want to like the
>guy we're doing it with (usually!;-) ) I certainly wouldn't wait months!
>In fact, if a guy didn't try at a fairly early date, the woman would
>probably get a little concerned! Hell, she probably wouldn't notice
>because she would have jumped *his* bones on the third or fourth date!
>I've heard of this "third date rule" myself. I've never been burnt on it,
>myself, because I usually know by the second or third date if I want to
>try sex. Hell, maybe *I* want to know if he's "worth it!" (Sponge-worthy?
>;-) )
>-katy


Katy, I always would only say "some" and not "all" because the nitpickers on
the Internet usually find some technical gotcha otherwise.  That is, these
people get caught up on the details instead of the general message being
conveyed.  After a few hundred "gotcha on a detail" aurguments, I've learned
to automatically insert "some" in *every* Internet statement I make just to
keep the discussion going on more interesting tacts.

That being said, Katy, I'm going to pose something more mixed than what you're
saying above.  I think that *some* women genuinely have these urges while
*some* other women genuiely don't (or they lose them over time.)  I can't
tell you the number of women I've seen in their 40's who publically espoused
how happy they are to be celebate.  (These were/are friends; not women I was
making a pass at.)  In the "Dear Ann Landers" column I've read
multiple times about older women not wanting to have sex but just wanting
to cuddle with their mates.  (Many espoused giving up sex altogether.)  Of
course the guys wrote back with another view on this topic! :^)

The only thing I'm trying to say is that biologically there's a great source
of conflict over the frequency & intensity that most men want versus what
some women and other women want in their sex lives.

  - John

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