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In article <4kvf6u$s4q@nuhou.aloha.net>, George  <smooth@aloha.net> wrote:
><  have been married or taken for the last 10yrs. I find all of the
>mental gymnastics tedious at best. The amount of money single guys
>spend to avoid (or try to avoid) the void of not having a partner
>amazes me (guilty). >
>
>I've been known to do that. I started to analyze myself why am I doing it as an originally very romance-loving 
>faithful and sincere guy. Guess what? I figured it out.
>The _only_ thing that kept repulsing me from a loving, faithful monogamous partnership... is monogamy. A 
>self-imposed giving up of freedom.
>
>Why? Am I some kind of pervert? 
>
>Not at all. If I can believe the book I'm reading (History of Sex,
>published in 1953 in London) monogamy was imposed upon the people only
>around Middle-Age by the Christian Church which labeled everything
>"sinful" that could possibly draw people away from religious zeal.
>Before the Church started to exterminate most any "sinful" pleasure
>from peorple's lives with their prohibitions, it was quite frequent
>and acceptable to have 4 -5 wives or husbands in Europe. It was a
>happy world, and no one made much fuss about a roll in the hay.

So you see monogamy as a giving up of the freedom to have sex
with whomever you like.  Eeeeeyeh.

You're forgetting that back then they had all those marriages
mostly as a way of gaining political support among your closest
warlords.

You've got half an answer:  it's not enough to see that the church
imposed monogomy; you have ask why there were so many polygamous
marriages in the first place.

Remember:  just because it was done in the past doesn't make it 
right.  In today's society with all the STD's floating around,
it makes even less sense.

Lastly, your argument is specious:  just because *you* say you
aren't a pervert doesn't mean you *aren't* a pervert.  Perversion is
defined by the society you live in.  That's why the federal laws
leave the definition of pornography up to local standards.

				Robert
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Robert Becker                                      robertb@world.std.com
Erstwhile bicyclist, avid father, longtime breather