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Hmm. Well, it's got a longer history than that. And a cross-cultural 
history. If you read Native American legends, they are full of 
partnerships between men and women, and these seem to be mainly 
monogamous. In fact, there are several legends where someone who deserts 
the woman who loves him is punished, somehow, for his cruelty. And where 
a wife who is unfaithful is likewise punished.

And you have Homer... where Odysseus' wife weaves and unweaves his shroud 
so she can put off the suitors... and she is faithful to him. Although he 
is not really, but then, he gets punished for succumbing to the sirens...

Then there are tales from other cultures... many cultures found that love
and marriage between one man and one woman worked. It *does* provide an
environment to raise children, and many cultures decided that they wanted
children to be raised. It also provides a partnership for working.  It
sometimes provided land rights and, in higher classes, joining of powers.
But that was not true of the majority of people, who were not high class. 

None of this means that what you find right for you is wrong, nor that 
what I find right for me is wrong. However, you are selecting history to 
justify your desires. I am wondering why you need to justify them?

--Louise

> In article <4kvf6u$s4q@nuhou.aloha.net>, George  <smooth@aloha.net> wrote:
> ><  have been married or taken for the last 10yrs. I find all of the
> >mental gymnastics tedious at best. The amount of money single guys
> >spend to avoid (or try to avoid) the void of not having a partner
> >amazes me (guilty). >
> >
> >I've been known to do that. I started to analyze myself why am I doing it as an originally very romance-loving 
> >faithful and sincere guy. Guess what? I figured it out.
> >The _only_ thing that kept repulsing me from a loving, faithful monogamous partnership... is monogamy. A 
> >self-imposed giving up of freedom.
> >
> >Why? Am I some kind of pervert? 
> >
> >Not at all. If I can believe the book I'm reading (History of Sex,
> >published in 1953 in London) monogamy was imposed upon the people only
> >around Middle-Age by the Christian Church which labeled everything
> >"sinful" that could possibly draw people away from religious zeal.
> >Before the Church started to exterminate most any "sinful" pleasure
> >from peorple's lives with their prohibitions, it was quite frequent
> >and acceptable to have 4 -5 wives or husbands in Europe. It was a
> >happy world, and no one made much fuss about a roll in the hay.