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>CHARLIE BARTA (orlando4@ix.netcom.com) wrote:
>: In <45tl3i$792@news.iadfw.net> "Scott C. McKissack"

>
>: I feel most people (myself sometimes included), play head games
during
>: the infatuation period of a relationship. It's like the peacock, we
>: want to show off our bright side. Once the plumage falls off and
face
>: one another's true nature we may have dug such a deep hole (lies),
>: about ourselves that the only way out is to lie some more or brake
it
>: off. If we were honest during the early stages, we might feel
>: inadequate and not pursue our desire to build a relationship. Know
what
>: I mean?
>:                     CB
>
>Uhhhhh...no, I don't know what you mean.  I don't think that
>telling outright lies is understandable.
>
>It is perfectly understandable (to me, at least) for someone to
>present their best side during the early stages of a relationship.
>Certain subjects may be avoided, or glossed over as part of this
>process.  If someone told me all of her dark secrets the first time
>I met her, I'd wonder what *else* was wrong.  But, once I get to
>know the good things about someone, sometimes the dark secrets
>aren't such a big deal.
>
>Although, I do wonder how this opening line would work...
>
>"Hi, I'm a serial killer, and I'm considering you as my next
>victim.  Would you like to join me for a cup of coffee?"
>
>I do not think it is understandable to tell outright
>lies to your partner, especially during the early stages 
>of a relationship.  Maybe this comes from some sort of
>naive hope that I am not being told outright lies, but 
>it is the way I feel. 
>
>If you have insecurities, or feel inadequate, see a therapist,
>or talk about it with friends, or start a newsgroup 
>alt.support.relationship.insecurities (has that already
>been done?), or whatever. 
>
>Mike

This is CB again. Mike, you have prejudged me! I am not the above at
all. I just feel when people meet for the first time they always put
their best foot forward. We always want to display our personality in
the best light. Not to say, "Hi, my name I Charlie I really love your
eyes and want to marry you". I might feel that but I'm not going to say
it. Not on the first encounter any way.

That isn't it either...if I sold Coppertone at one of the Disney hotels
I might say to a potential recipient of my affection, "I'm a skin care
specialist", not a pool boy or towel boy. People glamorize their
selves. Know what I mean?