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In article <45e7h3$d15@crl.crl.com> gunhed@crl.com (Steve Chaney) writes:
>In article <45e3hj$19l@transfer.stratus.com>,
>John Fereira <fereira@isis.com> wrote:
>>In article <459st1$sh4@crl.crl.com> gunhed@crl.com (Steve Chaney) writes:
>>>
>>>In article <457s5u$c3g@news.computek.net>, Fish <> wrote:
>>>>If you find it not within you, you will never find it without
>>>
>>>And how do you develop it within you?
>>>
>>>It's as simple to wake up one day and say "I'm confident!  I'm happy!" as
>>>it is for a dead battery to suddenly recharge itself.
>>>
>>>Think on that.
>> 
>>I did and wondered what purpose that analogy serves.  It's quite true
>>that confidence isn't something that is going develop overnight but is 
>>that really a problem?  The analogy seems to indicate that you see the
>>advocacy of inherent confidence as an instant solution to the "dating
>>problem".  So what if developing confidence *does* take time.  It's still
>>a reasonable goal to achieve that is going to make someone more attractive
>>to a MOTAS.  No, you don't just wake up one day and "I'm confident.  I'm
>>happy."  If you're doing this then you probably really aren't.  If the
>>confidence and sense of happiness develops over time eventually you just
>>"know" and don't have to reinforce it by telling yourself that you are.
>>There is no such thing as "acting confident".  Either you are or you're not.
>
>And so your punishment until you conform (become confident) is isolation
>from MOTAS?
 
Of course not.  I never wrote anything that would imply such a thing and
if you had read anything that I wrote in the past along these lines you
would see that I have advocated exactly the opposite.  The best way to
become more confident around a MOTAS is to spend more time just talking
to people that possess the gender of your preference (or all people, for
that matter).  Stop (not you specifically) thinking of everyone that is a 
MOTAS as a potential romantic interest or even distinguishing those that
might be and those that would not, and just treat them all the same, and
it becomes easier to be more comfortable around a MOTAS.  Geez,  I just
read this morning how you weren't going to twist the meaning of the articles
that you responded to but you certainly seemed to write something that
was never intended or implied in the article that I wrote just a few
hours later.


-- 
John Fereira
fereira@isis.com
Isis Distributed Systems - Ithaca, NY