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In message <43vmcj$gld@newsbf02.news.aol.com> - cheezits@aol.com (Cheezits) wri
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>Katharine A Harrison <kaharris@mtholyoke.edu> writes:
>|funny, but I always thought that when you met someone it was possibly by 
>|chance and that that is how love comes into a relationship. 
>
>Hey, that's how you win the lottery too. But you have to buy a ticket!

Even when you put yourself in places that you are more likely to meet 
someone, there's still the chance element of who will be there for you to 
meet.

>[etc.]
>|I have found myself someone but quite by accident and I didn't 
>|have to try.  
>
>Well, isn't that nice. There's something kind of annoying about getting
>advice that says, in effect, "Gee, I got lucky, so you will too!"

From another perspective, the people I've met when I wasn't "trying" are the 
ones that have turned into lasting friends or even relationships.  I know 
most of my relationships have also been chance encounters ranging from 
meeting someone in a hotel lobby to moving into a roommate situation and 
ending up getting involved for a time.

>|I understand the use of personal ads but come on.."go out 
>|meet people make yourself known" if that is not your personality then 
>|don't do it.  
>
>My personality type has kept me hidden behind a computer for too long.

Welcome to the net Sue! ;)  I've been in the same trap myself and now I 
working on getting outside and exploring more of the real world.  But I'm not 
planning on giving up my internet feed!

>|If you live at the library you may find someone there.  If 
>|you are an internet freak you might find someone there.  
>
>I am, and I might! :-) In fact, I've met a few people through
>alt.personals already. I'm convinced that the most interesting guys are on
>the internet.

Why thank you! ;)

>Listen, the only time an awesome man ever fell into my lap was when I
>*was* looking for him, at a singles' party, of all things. Okay, he didn't
>actually *fall* into my lap, he was sitting next to me and I got up and
>almost tripped over him. (The first words I said to him were "Sorry, I
>forgot you were there!")

Ouch!  ;)

>|Come on, love is out there for everyone but if you go around 
>|looking for it I am sure that it won't hit you.  
>
>You don't get anything without trying.

I believe that the effort comes after you've met someone and not in the 
meeting.  It's building a relationship, working through the differences and 
continuing to love each other through it all that takes the effort and 
commitment!

Ken

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Ken Brucker
xcalibur@cts.com
All I need to know about life I learned from my cat:
   Life is hard, then you nap.