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In article <43skbs$ffe@transfer.stratus.com>, fereira@isis.com (John
Fereira) writes:


>What did he do?  He posted something that was bad advice.  Do you
honestly
>believe the only way to meet women involves dancing, drinking, and trying
>to impress them in two minutes?   I can understand how some might equate
>that mating dance that takes place in tacky singles bars with how
>you go about meeting people....if you spend all your time in tacky
singles
>bars.  Out in the real world however, the best way to meet people is to
>just talk to them and show a genuine interest in what they are saying. 
Don't
>treat every woman you find physically attractive as some sort of trophy
>you're going to put on your mantle and avoid all others that you don't.  
>Treat woman as people and treat all people the same.  
>-- 
>John Fereira
>fereira@isis.com
>Isis Distributed Systems - Ithaca, NY
>
>
>

John gives good, sound advice here.  You're not going to meet someone with
a little class and quality if you think you've got a 2 minute limit to
impress the heck out of her because she's going to move on to potentially
greener pastures.

If she *does* do that number.......what have you lost?  A bimbette, no
doubt that wasn't worth the effort to begin with.

I also think that meeting someone that has the potential to develop into a
relationship takes a little dedication too.  If you're not comfortable in
that situation, you need to work on it with a little dedication.  Toughen
up your spine, deal with whatever rejection comes your way and keep
smiling.  Sooner or later (hopefully sooner) you'll get more comfortable
with it and things will click.  Conversation will get easier, you won't
get that dreaded two minute warning and you'll also be able to make a
better call at who looks like someone you'd want to spend a little more
time getting to know.

In this way too, you approach the whole dating game in a more logical,
constructive way....getting to know a person a little bit rather than an
image.

In a way, it's like public speaking.......there's not many of us that look
forward to it.  You just prepare as best you can, grit your teeth, smile
and try and act comfortable.  If you keep trying, you get better at it. 
It's just too bad that we don't have an equivalent to
"Toastmasters".......like "Datemasters"!  
 
Just my 2 cents............