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Terry O. Huston wrote:
> 
> 1.  I'm not too sure that the list defined in the previous posts truly
> define what men refer to as "head games", but certainly the sexual and
> psychological manipulative aspects qualify.

I see.  So, how do men truly define it? 

> 2.  I doubt that one could even try to assert that these are the exclusive
> property of the female half of the species, 

Thanks for agreeing with my point.

> but most men would contend
> that they are both better at it and more frequent practitioners.

I am so glad that most men agree about something.  Really, I truly am.  Quite 
a few studies, and all listings of violent crimes, agree that men are the 
most frequent practitioners of some other undesirable traits, on a scale of 
ten to one.  But no one is likely to start a thread with the subject: DO ALL 
MEN COMMIT VIOLENT CRIMES?

> 3.   As to why, the answer is rather obvious 

But has been missing from this thread until your coments below.

>      It is well known that any under-empowered class of people will adopt
> these methods and other non-direct confrontational tactics to achieve the
> perferctly normal goal of achieving effective parity with the more
> powerful class in their society; study the underclass and peasant
> behaviours of any earlier society from ancient Rome onwards for examples
> in history and legend.
> 4.   As women as a group feel more empowered, i.e. feel that they have
> achieved parity with men in our culture, you can expect the prevalence of
> "head games" to become pretty much the same as practiced by men.

Precisely.  Thank you.

> the use of sex as a power tool - women have more power there by the
> dictates of pure biology...

I am not at all sure that this idea will hold up through the centuries and 
millenia of the future, as humankind adjusts itself to being fully 
responsible for its individual and collective behavior, in order to survive 
our new state of dominance over nature.  How much of our sexuality is 
influenced, even formed, by our culture -- defining this the totality of our 
experiences with all other humans since birth?  This is a rhetorical 
question at this point; no one is free of culture, thus no one can answer 
this without built-in prejudice, in my opinion.  I would expect the answer to 
come from careful studies, but definitive examples of such studies have 
probably not yet been done.

> and nobody, male or female, willinlgy abandons
> any natural advantage in life!

When group cooperation on a planet-wide scale is the only way to survive, we 
had better learn how to give up notions such as this.

> Everybody uses what they can in the jungle of life - it ain't a mystery, folks.

It is not a jungle any more.  The jungle was our benevolent ancestral home, 
we have outgrown it.  The mountains and oceans that once protected us from 
each other, are gone as barriers.  Homicidal maniacs who killed off all the 
weaker folks, were restricted to their own tribe, now they roam the earth on 
jets, if not blowing up the jets.  The old stereotypes will not carry us 
forward.

-- 
Simonetta A. Rodriguez
http://web.mit.edu/simonett/www/