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Nina@ wrote:
> 
> I am... a woman who observes behaviour traits of each sex...
> Now, since I am in no way omnipotent, this is obviously a minority of 
> the female population.

Yup.  Minority of the male population too.

> I have just been very fortunate that the men in my life have all
> been very intelligent, open, honest (remember that is what most people 
> refer to as being blunt), and realistic.  Obviously you've not had the 
> same luck, else you'd not have fired back with such vehemence...

Well, I dunno.  I have had far too few opportunities to observe a large 
number of women closely.  But since I have worked in offices where almost 
everyone else is male, every work day since I was nineteen, 25 years now, the 
"men in my life" is a very large number indeed.  I just do not agree that 
these sweeping generalities regarding such traits as honesty, etc., are 
valid.  It does not make sense that these are sex-linked traits.  Nor that 
culture bestows these positive traits upon men in ANY greater share.  If 
women buy into this, then we may very well prove it true in our own lives, of 
course.

> You've taken my post way too personally.

Actually, the response was sarcasm.  I wrote it because I was incredulous 
that these bald and perverse assertions about women, which have dominated 
this thread, were not being challenged.  Obviously, my sarcasm has bite to 
it, sorry if it riled you.

> Watch the female sex around you.  Do it with an open mind.  If you don't 
> see it happening, you are very lucky.  Maybe because I'm in the South, I 
> tend to see more?

I am in a male-dominated technological environment.  The women here, and most 
of the women I have encountered in my career, can't be bothered with these 
behaviors, they are too busy being better in their fields, so they will be 
accepted on par.  But perhaps the environment where you are observing this is 
especially overtly aggressive to women, triggering more passive-aggressive 
behaviors, as noted in Terry O. Huston's explanation.  If some of the people 
in a setting are being beat up regularly, creating a general atmosphere of 
subjugation, how else will those who feel vulnerable, those who are similar 
to the victims, deal with it?

-- 
Simonetta A. Rodriguez
http://web.mit.edu/simonett/www/