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Carol Ann Hemingway wrote in message <61uo09$360@sjx-ixn4.ix.netcom.com>...
>In <61ukb6$hro@nnrp3.farm.idt.net> "John Dyson" <jrdyson@pipeline.com>
>writes:


>            --------
>            Knowing, first hand, the pain divorce can bring, I would
>            have a hard time accepting that most people bail at the
>            first sign of stress.

Well, it may be a 'generational' thing, too.  Most of the people with whom I
work, that have been divorced...the majority were married for relatively
short periods of time--from 1 to 4 years.  And, for the most part, these
marriages were disovled for the stupidest reasons, or because one of the
partners decided he/she didn't want to try to fix a problem....one that I,
from the outside, thought was rather simple to fix--but would just take a
little WORK.  Something that a LOT of the younger couples simply don't want
to give.

I know the "pain of divorce," too...and I feel I know from where I speak.
Of course, I'm not a PhD in mariage or anything...but I do see things around
me.

>           Making it expensive will only
>            subject folks to not get on with life, and endure more
>            problems than getting it done.  Premarital counseling
>            is probably most important.

Hmmm...I dunno.  I'm not 'sold' on this whole 'counceling' thing.  It seems
odd that life went on, mostly happily, for thousands of years without
professional 'councelors' to tell everybody what they're feeling.  I'm not
so sure that I put much stock into that notion.


>           Also, I think we have to
>            recognize that some folks are simply not cut out for
>            marriage.

Now, THAT I agree with.

John
http://www.pipeline.com/jrdyson
jrdyson@pipeline.com