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In article <33E5F898.487E@ConnectI.com>, chm@ConnectI.com says...
> I have a theory about people who eventually call themselves "gay." My
> theory may be all wet; but I need some feedback from people who knew
> now-gays when they were infants and young children. The feedback needs
> to be about whether these infants and young children deviated from
> what   _the parents believed_ and/or what the community conveyed was
> "male enough" or "female enough."

Your premise is flawed in a couple of ways.  First, it presumes that
the stereotype of a gay male as effeminate and the lesbian female as
"butch" is valid.  It isn't.  Second, it does not address (or even
acknowledge) any causal agent.

> My theory is this:  The parents' and their community's narrow view  of
> "maleness" or "femaleness" made life very difficult for the child who
> knew that he or she could not fit the gender stereotype, and that after
> many years of straining to be true to the self _and_ measure up to
> societal expectations, the individual finally just gave up and opted out
> of the "straight" society that had rejected his or her unique set of
> creativity and personality traits, and opted to enter a society that was
> more accepting of the true self.

"... just gave up and opted out of "straight" society" - This statement
implies that the person "chose" to be gay.

"... and opted to enter a society that was more accepting of the true
self" - This statement appears to contradict the previously quoted
statement.

Your hypothesis is confused and needs more thought.
 
> C.S. Mills 
> chm@ConnectI.com
>  SEEDAWN
> 

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