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"C.S. Mills" <chm@ConnectI.com> doth speak:

>I have a theory about people who eventually call themselves "gay." My
>theory may be all wet; but I need some feedback from people who knew
>now-gays when they were infants and young children. The feedback needs
>to be about whether these infants and young children deviated from
>what   _the parents believed_ and/or what the community conveyed was
>"male enough" or "female enough."
>
>My theory is this:  The parents' and their community's narrow view  of
>"maleness" or "femaleness" made life very difficult for the child who
>knew that he or she could not fit the gender stereotype, and that after
>many years of straining to be true to the self _and_ measure up to
>societal expectations, the individual finally just gave up and opted out
>of the "straight" society that had rejected his or her unique set of
>creativity and personality traits, and opted to enter a society that was
>more accepting of the true self.
>
>Give me  some feedback.

You are confusing transgendered people with homosexual people.
There are three primary components to human sexuality-

1.) Biology, or sex, as in if the body is that of a man, a woman, or a
hermaphrodite.
2.) Identity, or gender, which is the social role or personality type
the individual identifies with, such as male, masculine, feminine,
female, or androgynous.
3.) Orientation, or sexual attraction, labeled homosexual,
heterosexual, bisexual, and asexual.
This third factor is what sex one is attracted to,
not the gender identity or biology one is.

Transgendered people are not unlike what you describe, they are of a
gender identity that is different from their biology. Homosexual
people, in most cases, do not have a gender different from their
biology.

There are "macho" gay males and "dainty" lesbians, there are even male
to female transgendered who are sexually attracted to women, and
female to male transgendered who are attracted to men.


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