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Michael Malak wrote:
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> In article <382F72A2.6C4A2193@yahoo.com>,
>   DonLi@yahoo.com wrote:
> >  But I'm not going to settle for anyone conveniently
> > comes along.  City paper ad?
> 
> The cold fact is that a lot of white men and asian women pair up,

Where exactly do you get this idea? Maybe this is true at college age. And
which "asian" do you mean? That covers a lot of territory depending on who's
talking.

BTW, I just don't see any of that when I'm down in Adams-Morgan, I don't
even see that many asians at all, outside of the Indian Subcontinent types.

> so that makes it more difficult for asian men to find women.  It
> just means you have to try harder, and be patient.  Trying harder
> means fanning a large net:
> 
> * City Paper ads
> * Internet/Web ads
> * dc.romance discussion/ads

Yikes, to all of the above.

> * Going to lots of parties

Getting invited is the trick, but if you have any kind of a personality,
this isn't too hard.

> * Holding parties

Usually this is a good idea only after you've been invited to a few, and the
best place to announce such a party is via inquiries at another party, ask
if anyone is interested in you having a party and if everyone's interested,
announce one.

> * Going to discussion groups
> * Holding discussion groups
> * Joining recreational groups (esp. sports women enjoy, such as
>   rollerblading, volleyball, tennis, etc.)

Running's good. Also good would be Tae-Bo, which would be good for aerobics
even if you already have a martial arts background. Hmmm, maybe you can get
to be a tae-bo instructor...

> * Participating in community theatre
> * Taking adult education classes (county, community college, art
>   school, dance school, etc.)
> * More
> 
> In other words, expand your social net as wide as possible, and you
> will find someone with whom there is mutual attraction.  In the
> course of doing this exercise, you will be at the same time
> improving yourself and growing personally, thereby increasing your
> overall attractiveness and increasing your odds.
> 
> This will require a commitment of several hours per day every day
> for several years.  This means working no more than 40 hours per
> week, and cutting your commute by living close to your job, in
> order that you can participate in social activities every night of
> the week.

Well, doing this will clearly develop a reputation for being an active
person, but it also might tend to give the appearance of having scattered
forces. As long as it's an effort you enjoy, it's good -- but tackling
romance as if it's just another job is kind of self-defeating. 

> 
> --
> Michael Malak
> malak@claygency.com
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