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{posted and e-mailed}

On Mon, 15 Nov 1999 DonLi@yahoo.com wrote:

> Thanks for the two follow-ups.
> Please see below.
> 
> DL
> 
> klaatu wrote:
> 
> > Michael Malak wrote:
> > >
> > > Newsgroups changed: dc.romance added, rec.arts.movies.current-films
> > > dropped
> > >
> > > Posted and cc:'d.
> > >
> > > In article <382F72A2.6C4A2193@yahoo.com>,
> > >   DonLi@yahoo.com wrote:
> > > >  But I'm not going to settle for anyone conveniently
> > > > comes along.  City paper ad?
> > >
> > > The cold fact is that a lot of white men and asian women pair up,
> >
> > Where exactly do you get this idea? Maybe this is true at college age. And
> > which "asian" do you mean? That covers a lot of territory depending on who's
> > talking.
> >
> > BTW, I just don't see any of that when I'm down in Adams-Morgan, I don't
> > even see that many asians at all, outside of the Indian Subcontinent types.
> >
> > > so that makes it more difficult for asian men to find women.  It
> > > just means you have to try harder, and be patient.  Trying harder
> > > means fanning a large net:
> > >
> > > * City Paper ads
> > > * Internet/Web ads
> > > * dc.romance discussion/ads
> >
> > Yikes, to all of the above.
> >
> > > * Going to lots of parties
> >
> 

> Yes, I always have fun at parties, one of last summer parties almost
> led to Shakespeare's Midsummer Night :)  For some reason, later on, I
> chose not to attend any.

Very unusual. I never get invited so of course I do not attend. But if you
have the opportunity, you should go. If you have a bad time, leave; but if
you have a good time, that's good -- if everyone sees you having a good
time, they know how you are when you're relaxed.

> 
> >
> > Getting invited is the trick, but if you have any kind of a personality,
> > this isn't too hard.
> >
> > > * Holding parties
> >
> > Usually this is a good idea only after you've been invited to a few, and the
> > best place to announce such a party is via inquiries at another party, ask
> > if anyone is interested in you having a party and if everyone's interested,
> > announce one.
> >
> > > * Going to discussion groups
> > > * Holding discussion groups
> > > * Joining recreational groups (esp. sports women enjoy, such as
> > >   rollerblading, volleyball, tennis, etc.)
> >
> 

> Actually I'm not into martial arts at all.  You guys tend to think
> most Chinese know a little bit of it, the fact is the opposite.  

But that's so strange, all of us white guys study martial arts! Some
formally, some simply as back-alley instruction, sort of like Hong Kong
street-fighting. It's too bad, some of us might have a good tang-su-do
(korean high foot style) side kick, but no philosophy behind it. Just like
the wild west, doesn't matter if you can shoot straight, but everyone has
to have a gun. Very sad.

> Oops, many years ago, I had no vision.

Do you mean, sometimes we ignore easy opportunities? It's never too late
to correct past lapses. ;-)


> 
> >
> > Running's good. Also good would be Tae-Bo, which would be good for aerobics
> > even if you already have a martial arts background. Hmmm, maybe you can get
> > to be a tae-bo instructor...

Um, I mean lots of opportunities to instruct muscular young ladies on
particulars of good form...

> >
> > > * Participating in community theatre
> > > * Taking adult education classes (county, community college, art
> > >   school, dance school, etc.)
> > > * More
> > >
> > > In other words, expand your social net as wide as possible, and you
> > > will find someone with whom there is mutual attraction.  In the
> > > course of doing this exercise, you will be at the same time
> > > improving yourself and growing personally, thereby increasing your
> > > overall attractiveness and increasing your odds.
> > >
> > > This will require a commitment of several hours per day every day
> > > for several years.  This means working no more than 40 hours per
> > > week, and cutting your commute by living close to your job, in
> > > order that you can participate in social activities every night of
> > > the week.
> >
> 
> Very interesting thought.
> 
> Thanks.

Not my own thought... please see advice below...

> 
> >
> > Well, doing this will clearly develop a reputation for being an active
> > person, but it also might tend to give the appearance of having scattered
> > forces. As long as it's an effort you enjoy, it's good -- but tackling
> > romance as if it's just another job is kind of self-defeating.

This, I hope, is what you'll think about -- dating should be fun and
spontaneous, too much work makes a sweet game a dull task.

> >
> > >
> > > --
> > > Michael Malak
> > > malak@claygency.com
> > >
> 

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