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In article <382FD79A.953F3419@clark.net>,
  klaatu@clark.net wrote:
> Michael Malak wrote:
> >
> > The cold fact is that a lot of white men and asian women pair up,
>
> Where exactly do you get this idea?

The 1990 Census, see:

    Sailer, Steve; "Sex & Race: Is Love Colorblind?"; National
    Review; July 14, 1997
    http://www.uky.edu/StudentOrgs/AWARE/archives/sailor.html

    "In the 1990 Census, 72 per cent of black - white couples
     consisted of a black husband and a white wife. In contrast,
     white - Asian pairs showed the reverse: 72 percent consisted
     of a white husband and an Asian wife."


> > * City Paper ads
> > * Internet/Web ads
> > * dc.romance discussion/ads
>
> Yikes, to all of the above.

Yes, yikes, but they improve the odds.  In my time, I could only
stomach one blind date every six months.  The problem is that
blind dates from unknown sources are complete strangers.  They're
usually from entirely different social universes, and not always
"good" different either.

But the point of my post was all about increasing the odds.  If
you get enough monkeys and typewriters...


> Running's good. Also good would be Tae-Bo,

Good call.

> which would be good for aerobics even if you already have a martial
> arts background. Hmmm, maybe you can get to be a tae-bo instructor...

Excellent call.  That is almost guaranteed to work.


> > In other words, expand your social net as wide as possible, and you
> > will find someone with whom there is mutual attraction.  In the
> > course of doing this exercise, you will be at the same time
> > improving yourself and growing personally, thereby increasing your
> > overall attractiveness and increasing your odds.
> >
> > This will require a commitment of several hours per day every day
> > for several years.  This means working no more than 40 hours per
> > week, and cutting your commute by living close to your job, in
> > order that you can participate in social activities every night of
> > the week.
>
> Well, doing this will clearly develop a reputation for being an active
> person, but it also might tend to give the appearance of having
> scattered forces. As long as it's an effort you enjoy, it's good --
> but tackling romance as if it's just another job is kind of
> self-defeating.

If someone desires romance and is having trouble finding it, the
effort must be increased.  As therapists are trained to say: "What
do you want?  What steps are you going to take to achieve that?"

The appearance will not be of "scattered forces".  With the overall
level of activity I have described, the level of activity for any
partictular activity will be higher than a focused activity of an
average person.

Instead, the negative appearance will be that one is "actively
looking," and that will scare away people who are not actively
looking.  It's a serious downside to what I described, but in my
opinion is offset by the results.  People who are very attractive
should probably stick with the fairy tale approach portrayed in
movies, since it will probably work for them and is in fact more
romantic.

--
Michael Malak
malak@claygency.com


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