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Bigus wrote:
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> In article <01bbfddc$4439ed20$13f042ce@etherman.mdc.net>,
> etherman@mdc.net says...
> >
> >
> > Bigus <bigus@ix.netcom.com> wrote in article
> > <MPG.d3ca2866d86212098977f@nntp.ix.netcom.com>...
> > > Every detail of your makeup can be considered either attractive, neutral
> > > or unnatractive (to any given person). Being tall and very skinny is
> > > probably not especialy attractive but probably not unattractive either.
> > > Few things all alone override everything else.
> > >

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> this friend had learned the same lessons and passed them along to me. All
> the efforts I had put into changing my body amounted to nothing, while a
> few tiny changes to my behavior changed everything. I have been in better
> phisical shape, but I have never been called good looking untill
> recently.
> 
> John

Hi John:)

Well you are right about one thing.  Changing one's outer appearance
will do nothing to appease the yearnings and issues that are often the
real culprits.  These come from within and the only true way to heal---
be it weight, nerves, or whatever is to work from the inside out.  This
is the hard and often painful approach, but in esssence it is the only
REAL way. I could starve myself and lose weight.  This will work.
However, the weight will come back.. This is proven fact and probably
more of it. 

As one who has taken the inner spiritual approach and come to be on the
other side(hehe), I feel I have a little knowledge in this area.  I
dealt with the emotional, mental, spiritual, physical doubt that I would
ever, EVER be good enough for anyone for any reason.  I had issues
galore. I will not say it wasn't painful to look upon myself (as is)
with brutal candid reality-- and honesty, but I did it.  I did not like
much of what I saw. So---- I razed the foundation and started over, from
the personality to the body from the ground up.  It took over 3 years to
feel some sense of being on solid ground, but at least *this* ground was
of my choosing and I felt comfortable with and within it.  

Changing your appearance will only help if that is what you want to do
and for yourself, your health and well-being. I work out because it
FEELS GOOD!  I work out because I like the rush of blood that tells me I
am alive and moving. That my body reflects this is a bonus... Being tall
is not a problem.  There are many women who only opt for the tall guy. 
There are women who only want a more huskier man for they make them feel
their smallness.  It is a kaleidoscope of different shapes and sizes. 
The trick is in finding one who appreciates us for the person and the
size that we are.  There is someone for everyone.  There are advantages
and disadvantages to all proportions of bodies. 

To being the best YOU you can be... Just BE yourself.  You chose to be
here in the body form you have for a reason.  Know that you are unique
AS IS........

Take care,

-- 
Brenda <'-'>
Official Lady DreamCatcher of  the RFA

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