🚀 go-pugleaf

I, too, am impressed when I hear that a man has a nice car or owns his own
house. I am not overly impressed when I hear that a man lives with five
roommates in a run-down flat and rides a second-hand scooter. As several
women have pointed out, however, it is not the WEALTH that is impressive,
it is the indication that the man is a responsible, stable adult. If
wealth were the issue, then I would be impressed by men who drive Ferari's
(spelling, sorry) - as it is, I wouldn't be interested in a man who drove
such a vulgar, flashy thing. If a man is too wealthy, I might become
uneasy. (I'm not sure why.) However, if a man has a NICE car and a DECENT
place to live, then my weird female instincts say "Ah! Now, he might just
turn out to be a wonderful father for my children." At the very least,
even if I'm not looking to have babies, I still feel re-assured that this
guy might not be the type to borrow money and be flighty.
I hope that men are using similar, parrallel criteria when they are
evaluating a woman they have just met...
When you first meet someone, you have a limited amount of time to sort out
the signals and catagorize them. Everyone does it (I hope) and it's quite
natural. Reasonable people are flexible enough to modify their judgements
when necessary, but you still have to figure out as quickly as possible
what sort of person you are dealing with. This is not "Shallow."

please forgive me my spelling mistakes.
-katy