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-=Weezel=- <louise@mv.mv.com> wrote:
>On Tue, 9 Apr 1996, John Cooley wrote:
>
>> Over the years the majority of my male peers I've heard mention anything
>> about sex & dating usually say that they'll give a woman anywhere from 3 to
>> 7 dates before either going to bed with her or moving on.  That is, they
>> try to get to know the woman first.  After that they want to know whether
>> she's worth any further investment of time & energy (i.e. is she great
>> or lousy in bed?)
>> 
>> Of course, this completely grates against the let's-spend-months-getting-
>> to-know-each-other-before-even-kissing style many women would like to
>> follow if they got their druthers in the dating world.
>> 
>> What results most of the time is something in between these two approaches.
>> 
>>   - John
>
>Ahh, the days of college, when you COULD spend months getting to know
>someone because everyone hung out together. The only close thing to that
>is the work situation, and that has its downside also as you have to work
>with the person even if the romance blows up. The next best thing is
>dating someone who you got to know while you were out of circulation
>dating someone else... so you can get to know the other people around 
>without the pressure of "put out or get out". 
>
I think you have something here... There is really no similar 'scene' in 
workaday world. I guess the closest thing is the bar scene, but then there's
all those drunks. :( I have a friend that frequents these 'singles dances' and 
he's dragged me to a couple. Feels like a pressure cooker. It would be nice to 
have a place to hang out with friends.

I've been tempted to take some classes just to get back into circulation, but I 
think it would have to be something non-computer related. Any ideas?

>What is really weird is the idea of bedding strangers... to those of us
>who were with someone very close for years and know what it is like to
>REALLY care about the person we're with because we know them so well. To
>actually care about them even when they are not looking lovely, when they
>fade in the middle of a lovemaking session, when they can't even get
>started... and we still love them. Good times and bad. Imagine having 
>someone like you that much, as a friend too, not just a lover. 'course 
>lust is great also, so's love... and if you have all three... great stuff.
>
>--L
>
Well, I admit I've done my share of one night stands AND my share of long-
term committed relationships, there is no doubt that the latter is much more 
satisfying.

-jlk-