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In article <4735pm$j3e@gazette.tandem.com>,
Aqua  <reif_andrea@tandem.com> wrote:
>
>I guess you don't know
>what it's like to have someone pretend to be your friend when you're 
>going through an emotionally vulnerable time in your life just for 
>ulterior motives.  Maybe it's also my own fear of having to say no to
>people I'm close to but it's just easier to be on guard with men and 
>confide in and depend on my female friends more.
>
>Aqua
>

Andrea, I think you are like the dog who gets its paw caught in the car
door and then never goes near the car again.  Who is to say that *every*
man will want to do the things that a single man in a single instance
did?  You make such rash generalizations about men from small instances.

Why is it easier to be on guard with men?  You are discriminating against
a set of people just for the sake of their gender rather than treating
each person and each circumstance as an individual experience.  I think
that's wrong.  And what makes you think that a woman wouldn't do the same
thing that the man of your experience did?  What makes a woman more 
trustworthy?  Her gender?  

I *do* know what it is like to have someone pretend to be my friend when
I was going through a complicated and emotional time of my life and then
try to get me into bed.  He was a jerk.  But, that doesn't mean I look
at every man I meet and think, "Well, he has the potential to hurt me so
I'm not going to be close friends with him--he'll just be a 'cafe friend'
to me."  I take a look at each person and decide whether or not I want
that person to be in my life.  Try it.  It works.

M


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