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>>>>> At 10:02 10/13, Tracy Hornschuch <browntr@engr.orst.edu> said:
> 
> ...I just need to find someone who is open like me.  I don't mind a
> husband who feels as if he's a *leader* in the household, but he will
> have to know that we, as a couple, will have to talk about all choices
> for the household and must agree on the answers.

I chopped a lot out of what I thought was a very nice post.  I've been
reading and writing in the USENET groups for nearly fifteen years now.  I
haven't often felt that my posts were doing any good.  More often it seems
I'm writing for people who have their minds made up.  This feels good.
Thanks.

Many people hear PK speak of the husband as the leader of the home, and
think of the Great Leader of Korea, or Hitler leading the German nation.
That is, they associate leader with tyrant.  Let me give you two other
images of husband-as-leader that I think are a better fit to what PK has in
mind:

* You are climbing a mountain.  Your husband is leading, setting the pitons
  to help you when it's your turn to climb.  Of course, you are belaying
  him, keeping him safe as he climbs now.  And, of course, you both decided
  that you wanted to climb the mountain.

* You are finding a path through a swamp.  Your husband is leading, trying
  to pick the best path through.  If you happen to see that the ground is
  more solid to the right, then of course you'll tell him, and maybe you'll
  both go that way instead.

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